Monday, August 7, 2017

This is going to save my motherhood

I was in Greenville a few weeks ago, feeling very nostalgic since I was in my old college town, when I started thinking...

I absolutely loved my college days.  I was in school before iPhones and social media were a thing, and I felt like I really lived those years. 

I had a thought-"that's what I want my motherhood to be like!"  I truly love being a mom-it's the greatest gig in the world.  These years are physically exhausting, and yes-there are challenges, of course-but they're also amazing (I'm still the coolest to them!) and I know this time is going to pass by way too fast.  I want to look back on these years and think....I really lived those years when my kids were young.

So!  What to do?  How to change?  

For the past few weeks, I've only checked email and social media in the morning for just a few minutes before I get up with the kids and at night after I put them down for bed.

Since I've had baby,  I've been spending a huge chunk of my time sitting and nursing.  As I would sit, I would scroll through social media, and pretty soon, it became an actual habit to grab my phone and scroll.  (By the way, social media scrolling during nighttime/early morning newborn feedings is an actual lifesaver, so there's that...)  

Waiting in the Chick Fil A line, I would grab my phone to scroll through Facebook.  Sitting down to feed Sadie, I would scroll through Instagram.  Getting in the car, I would check my email before we drove away.

The absolute worst. What a waste of time.  

I was one of the last people to get an iPhone, (seriously I had the free phone from Verizon for FOREVER), and I vowed I would never become addicted to it.  I even turned off all my notifications immediately after getting it.

Don't get me wrong!  I love social media.  I was just telling my friend, Anna, that the only thing I didn't enjoy about Chip and JoAnna's book was that they talked about never watching tv.  I think that's weird considering the reason they have the lifestyle they do is because people watch tv!!  So I'm not one of those bloggers knocking social media.

I love seeing new babies, funny memes, cute outfit ideas, and exchanging ideas. I just prefer checking in at the end of the day instead of letting it become a huge part of my day.

I have to tell you....these past few weeks have been amazing.  I feel less frustrated, and as a result-more patient.  When I feed Sadie, I read my book or read books to the boys.  I have done ten times more in the past 2 weeks than I've done in the weeks before.
I was telling my sister about this and I asked her, "you know what I've missed?" And she said, "nothing?!".....that's right...absolutely nothing from social media during the day.  

At the end of the day, it is more important for me to answer with all my energy what my 3rd favorite meat eating dinosaur is than to see what a random person is eating for lunch.  It is more important for me to meet a new person in the smoothie line and listen to their interesting story than to scroll through Twitter a couple of times.

At the end of the day, I feel like I've spent my time wisely and have had less "I need to do much better tomorrow" days.  

While cleaning out a dresser the other day, I found a letter from my friend, Mary Beth, that she wrote me from France. She included the quote from Victor Hugo, 

"It is nothing to die.  It is frightful not to live."

And that's what I want to do!  Live the absolute best life I can.

Find out how to live your best life!  Figure out what you might need to tweak in your life, and do it! 

Have a great week y'all.


Ms.A said...

This is awesome Ashley! I need to do this but it is such a habit like you said. I will do better this week!

Laura Darling said...

I love this, and it really had me thinking. I deleted my facebook account in the fall and I loved not having it. I didn't miss anything either. I reactivated it and now I find myself just mindlessly scrolling too. It's just a habit at this point. This post made me really think about it and it may be time for another break!!

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